Coffee, Chaos and Cuss Words

I just read an article from the Huffington Post by a woman who claims she is a "survivor of infertility" and learning to accept a life without children. She also said she is NOT choosing adoption because it is not 'right for her family'.  You can read it yourself (it took me three times to get through it without growling). Here's the link-  Active Acceptance I will say this pisses me off. I will be judged from now through my Golden Years for my decision not to have children. I never wanted children. I don't hate them...as a matter of fact I spent most of my adult life in social service careers that were centered around services for children. I've spent a better part of my working career caring for children that other women had without thought to the real consequences and costs of raising those kids.... But I digress... I don't think that woman, or others like her, have the right to claim to be VICTIMS, SURVIVORS, or any other type of MARTYRDOM over the...

I walk a solitary path, but initially I tried many times to belong to a coven / circle. One of the first experiences I had with group practice was when I ran into an old high school friend in a metaphysical store. She told me she was Wiccan and invited me to an open circle her coven was having the following week. I was nervous but excited at what I might learn there. At the door, I was bid to enter by a man in an all leather outfit consisting of a hooded mask, chest harness, pants, and boots. From behind his zippered mouth he said, "How do you enter here?" What? Having never been to any kind of Pagan ritual before (and being more than a little taken aback by the broadsword he held in front of me to block my way) I had no idea how to respond! From behind me, someone whispered, "In perfect love and perfect trust..." Really??? THAT was the password?  I stumbled with the crowd into a large hall for my first group ritual experience. It's still a kind of blur to this ...

Some people tend to think that Childfree people have an insane amount of discretionary income to just throw about. Studies do show that Childfree individuals actually make the same amount of money as parents, it is the way and places the money is spent which indicates the difference between those with kids and the Childfree. Now, my husband and I have a decent income at this time, but we also have BILLS, just like those people with kids. Rent, car insurance, phone, electric/utilities, groceries, etc are just some of the expenditures we consistently attend to monthly. Honestly, what we and any other Childfree person can spend on ourselves aside from those financial commitments depends largely on the salary we make. Hubby and I do alright...certainly better than if we had to devote a major chunk of our income toward the care, raising and needs of a child...or several...instead of focusing on our own needs and wants. One of the benefits of being Childfree is that we ARE able to devote all...