Coffee, Chaos and Cuss Words

I was spending a little time (okay, a LOT) perusing Pinterest the other day looking for pictures or articles for my Childfree Spirit Facebook page and my Childfree Moxie blog. I came across yet another photograph of a tremendously pregnant woman and her partner with her gigantic belly exposed. It frankly made me a bit nauseous. I know lots of women who love the image of a pregnant woman, but it has never been something that I have ever found beautiful...but I digress... The pinner of said picture was 'Bio Ideology'...and they have a forum site as well called Bio Ideology (I do not believe it is an actual scientific term. It is just a way to make a pseudo pronatalistic position stand out from the others).  Curious (and clearly a glutton for aggravation and punishment) I ventured to their Pinterest page and saw many pins that followed their bio-ideological principles which are extremely pronatalistic. With much bashing of those who are Childfree, this was the description they use...

No....it's not time yet...wait your turn! It's amazing to me how many Pagans/ Wiccans/ Witches, etc seem to be the worst proponents of Seasonal Creep. It had actually been defined as an environmental or climate change that brought about conditions of the upcoming season sooner than usual.  Lately, in our modern culture it has taken on a new definition as retailers have begun telling us earlier and earlier that you need to shop for your holiday goodies to get the best deals, and thereby have extended the seasons. I've heard sales announced as the Christmas Creep has already begun and it is only August. What I am speaking of, however, is more like Spiritual Seasonal Creep . The condition in which Nature based religions and spirituality stop living in the moment and/or with the natural cycle and instead fast-forward toward holidays, seasons and celebrations that are coming soon. This really grinds my gears. I mean, seriously...it really does... I love celebrating my wedding an...

It appears I've made it to a milestone.... Happy 50th Birthday to me! I didn't think I'd be celebrating the way I am today... where I am today, when I turned 50. My life has taken so many unexpected twists and turns in the past few years that I didn't anticipate this is where I'd be. Living away from NJ...in So Cal...10 minutes from the beach. Wow.....how frikkin cool!!! A year ago, we finally finished with all the agonizing estate business after my parents deaths. I no longer had a relationship with my sibs so Sean and I asked ourselves, 'What are we waiting for?'. We wanted to move to a place where there was milder weather (NO snow!) and be nearer to the beach all year round. We both love Jersey, but couldn't endure another winter. One trip out to So Cal and I found us the little apartment in which we now reside in Oceanside, CA. Everything feels like it's happened so fast (but there was a LOT of work and planning involved)!!! I never dreamed THIS...

Four days ago...my husband and I packed up my little Chevy Sonic with our two cats and several bags of clothes and stuff and began a journey across country. We are making our way to Southern California, where we will begin a life near the Pacific Ocean. I think we considered the benefits of our geographical move, but underestimated the impact it would be having on us emotionally. Sean and I have been married for 5 years and together around 7....yet I think this may have been one of the biggest undertakings of our relationship. When we decided to move to the California coast to enjoy year round proximity to the ocean, we knew our life was going to be different....but I'm not sure we understood how many ways it would change. I know I've tried to anticipate all the ups and downs but even my controlling nature couldn't predict how it actually felt till we got on the road. We decided to drive cross country to minimize the impact on our cats, Vilma and Baby. It has still been tra...

This has been copied directly from my other blog at   Mid-Stride Moxie!  I'm posting this here, because it is relevant to any number of Childfree straight and LGBT folks. Not just dealing with a pronatalistic society that wants you to give birth, adopt and raise children...but along with that facing a double whammy against the pressure of being who you are. The media frenzy is real...as is the pain that can come from feeling like you are alone. So, from me to you.....You are NOT alone... I listen to the news...observe the entertainment media's feeding frenzy. I listen to and read comments from various blogs and other sources....I cringe at the vitriol...the ignorance...the fear....and some of it from people I never, ever expected it from.  So, just to say it....just to put it out there....here is where I stand. There is much I don't know but I'm willing to learn...and to understand. I'm not perfect, but no one is. My heart is open and I extend my hand in friendship ...

I listen to the news...observe the entertainment media's feeding frenzy. I listen to and read comments from various blogs and other sources....I cringe at the vitriol...the ignorance...the fear....and some of it from people I never, ever expected it from.  So, just to say it....just to put it out there....here is where I stand. There is much I don't know but I'm willing to learn...and to understand. I'm not perfect, but no one is. My heart is open and I extend my hand in friendship to anyone who can love, respect, laugh, cry, and support each other.... I have no time for ignorance or hate.... So here I am...this is what I believe...this is what I feel... I could never tolerate a bully.... Education conquers fear....not blind hatred... How can you only fight for what matters to you at someone else's expense? Any perfect people out there? Didn't think so... If we are all happy, we all win... Always have been...and it's surprised many gay folks, too... We all c...

                                                     I'm in the middle of a transformation that I sincerely believe would NOT be possible if I had kids. My husband and I are literally weeks away from moving from New Jersey to California. We've been talking for some time about our desire to live nearer to the ocean and we are making that happen.  I flew out to California at the end of May. I had a week to look at apartments, see if I could find one within our budget, and sign a lease. The day before I was due to fly back to Jersey, I found one. Since then I have given notice at my job, gotten movers and have been going crazy throwing stuff away, donating items, and filling box after box after box.... Chaos and excitement all day, every day! If we had children, there is no way this would be possible in this time frame. There would be no way I would be...