Confronting the hypocrisy of Childless regrets
hy·poc·ri·sy- /hiˈpäkrisē/ noun
the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform; pretense.
Already this morning I've been diving into various social media to touch base with the Childfree world. Of course, I've come across several videos and articles by Child-less women who accuse the CF folks of being ignorant, manipulative and selfish for not having children. Of these, several have proclaimed that they 'bought in' to the media hype that women can have it all and waited too long to have children. Now all they have are regrets...
Here's the thing: There is nothing stopping an individual from becoming a 'parent' or 'guardian' to a child if they truly wanted to. Those who have 'regrets' have many ways to share their love with a needy child. The individuals who waited 'too long' to have a child have other options and I'm amazed no one has confronted these folks on their hypocrisy.
You can adopt, foster, volunteer to mentor, be a Big Brother/Big Sister, work for a daycare, school or other agency that specializes in work with children, etc. In the United States, there are nearly 400, 000 kids in foster care and approximately 100,000 are eligible for adoption.
But you don't want any of them....do you?
You need a little carbon copy of yourself. You need it to look like and be a little bit of your DNA put back into the world or it's not worth loving.
Talk about SELFISH....
I chose not to have children. I never wanted them and despite enormous pressure from others my entire life, I have stood by that decision. I never wanted to 'parent' a child. I have had many jobs that required me to supervise, teach, guide, advise, and care for the safety of children. I have shown many vulnerable and abused children affection. I've also had jobs that required the same for adults, as well. I have never wanted a child of my own to do that for. I've never wanted to bring a child into my home life and be responsible for raising it and so, I am Childfree by Choice.
I'm tired of hearing the bitching of those who 'can't have kids'. If for whatever reason you cannot physically get pregnant and give birth, you can STILL parent or care for a child. There are many people I know who grew up in foster care and tell you what loving adults made the greatest impact in their lives.
Admit it. You don't want any of THOSE kids. They aren't YOUrs and 'it wouldn't be the same'. If you truly want to be a parent or a loving caregiver to a child, there are many ways to do it. But you WON'T do it. Not unless is came from your body. Unless it shares your genes it is unworthy of your time, love and affection. You'd rather get upset with those who don't want children and are happy with that decision, instead of wallowing in 'regrets' like you...
You are hypocrites, and this is why I have no respect for you. While you criticize me and my fellow CF friends for the choice we made, in reality, you have made the same choice. You will point the finger and wag it at us, but you don't dare look in a mirror....and you really should.
Those who 'can't' have kids but still want them will find a way to love a child....or many children. So get off their backs too for not doing anything about it in YOUR time frame or according to YOUR standards. Those of us who choose not to have children at all are not all haters....we just don't want to have our lives devoted to children.
If you asked the RIGHT questions...you'd know who I am and why I made my choice. But as long as you're calling me names....I don't really want to get to know you. In the meantime, think about it this way:
"Your Beliefs Don't Make You A Better Person, Your Behavior Does."
the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform; pretense.
Already this morning I've been diving into various social media to touch base with the Childfree world. Of course, I've come across several videos and articles by Child-less women who accuse the CF folks of being ignorant, manipulative and selfish for not having children. Of these, several have proclaimed that they 'bought in' to the media hype that women can have it all and waited too long to have children. Now all they have are regrets...
Here's the thing: There is nothing stopping an individual from becoming a 'parent' or 'guardian' to a child if they truly wanted to. Those who have 'regrets' have many ways to share their love with a needy child. The individuals who waited 'too long' to have a child have other options and I'm amazed no one has confronted these folks on their hypocrisy.
You can adopt, foster, volunteer to mentor, be a Big Brother/Big Sister, work for a daycare, school or other agency that specializes in work with children, etc. In the United States, there are nearly 400, 000 kids in foster care and approximately 100,000 are eligible for adoption.
But you don't want any of them....do you?
You need a little carbon copy of yourself. You need it to look like and be a little bit of your DNA put back into the world or it's not worth loving.
Talk about SELFISH....
I chose not to have children. I never wanted them and despite enormous pressure from others my entire life, I have stood by that decision. I never wanted to 'parent' a child. I have had many jobs that required me to supervise, teach, guide, advise, and care for the safety of children. I have shown many vulnerable and abused children affection. I've also had jobs that required the same for adults, as well. I have never wanted a child of my own to do that for. I've never wanted to bring a child into my home life and be responsible for raising it and so, I am Childfree by Choice.
I'm tired of hearing the bitching of those who 'can't have kids'. If for whatever reason you cannot physically get pregnant and give birth, you can STILL parent or care for a child. There are many people I know who grew up in foster care and tell you what loving adults made the greatest impact in their lives.
Admit it. You don't want any of THOSE kids. They aren't YOUrs and 'it wouldn't be the same'. If you truly want to be a parent or a loving caregiver to a child, there are many ways to do it. But you WON'T do it. Not unless is came from your body. Unless it shares your genes it is unworthy of your time, love and affection. You'd rather get upset with those who don't want children and are happy with that decision, instead of wallowing in 'regrets' like you...
You are hypocrites, and this is why I have no respect for you. While you criticize me and my fellow CF friends for the choice we made, in reality, you have made the same choice. You will point the finger and wag it at us, but you don't dare look in a mirror....and you really should.
Those who 'can't' have kids but still want them will find a way to love a child....or many children. So get off their backs too for not doing anything about it in YOUR time frame or according to YOUR standards. Those of us who choose not to have children at all are not all haters....we just don't want to have our lives devoted to children.
If you asked the RIGHT questions...you'd know who I am and why I made my choice. But as long as you're calling me names....I don't really want to get to know you. In the meantime, think about it this way:
"Your Beliefs Don't Make You A Better Person, Your Behavior Does."
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