Coffee, Chaos and Cuss Words

Hello friends and WELCOME to the Thanksgiving edition of Childfree Moxie! It's been a little while since I've posted anything! Of course, at the moment I might be talking to myself, since the last time I chatted here it was shortly after I moved my blog from Wordpress over here to Blogger. Anyhoo....as is often the case, there are a number of Childfree individuals who dread Turkey Day. Sometimes you can add the Single folks to the mix, as they often get hit doubly hard by the gathering to come. Family time at Thanksgiving.....it has a variety of expressions all over America depending on the cultures, states and relatives you throw into the mix. For some it's a wonderful and loving gathering of folks you don't get to see often enough. For others, it is an insane obligation once a year to put up with people you don't want to speak to let alone sit next to at the dinner table. For me, it was somewhere in the middle of all that...mostly good, some crazy...but generally ...

Good morning, my friends! It's been a little while since we've sat down with some coffee and chatted for a bit! Life is busy, busy, busy.....BUT....I've been given a reminder that sometimes, you need to slow down and enjoy where you are. So, here I am....let's chat! The big thing with me at the moment is that I finally have taken action on my 20+ year dental phobia and gotten my teeth worked on! Yes, that's right, the last time I went to the dentist was when I was in my mid 20's and I'm now 49.  I found a dental practice that was able to do sedation (the ONLY way I can tolerate most dental work) and had my extremely bad teeth removed yesterday. I felt and remember NOTHING about the procedure....thank you Dr. R!! Today I am swollen and sore...I was in a bit of pain yesterday and I'm sure I will have more as I heal. However, those bad teeth are gone! At the moment, I have a few teeth missing from the front  so I'm gonna be a bit awkward with conversati...

I have been experiencing something I haven't in a very, VERY long time. It scared me a bit...making me wonder what was happening to me. Normally, during this time of year, when the Veil grows thin between the worlds, I am overloaded with connections from spirits...I practically hum with the feeling of energies rolling off me in waves....and I wake often through the night because I am filled with noisy visions and messages throughout my dream time. I revel in the contacts, the energy, the hustle and bustle through the spirit world...it's like one big party! However, it has been rather quiet lately... I have had periods before where there has been a kind of psychic or spiritual 'radio silence'. It usually lasts for a couple of days and then things go back to normal (or, my version of normal, anyway...) once a specific message or lesson has been delivered. This time, it happened rather suddenly at the beginning of October and I have been waiting for it to 'pass'. I...

Normally, celebrity gossip has no interest for me and neither does George Clooney (never got what other people raved on about with him). He is recently married for the second time; he is 53 and his new wife is 32. They are both successful, accomplished individuals in their chosen professions. He once declared he wouldn't marry again and had no interest in having kids. That said, it has prompted me to wonder; how would the Childfree by Choice community respond if he changed his mind about having children, as he just has about getting married again? If Clooney had children after he previously and publicly declared his Childfree status, he wouldn't be the first, and he wouldn't be the last. As a society we take a great interest in the celebrities who declare they are Childfree by Choice. We've raised Cameron Diaz up and made her a sort of spokesperson for the Childfree by Choice community as well (I don't get that either). That boggles my mind because for some reason, ...

(L)September 2012 and (R)September 2014 Sometimes, you can't go home again... I went to see my parent's house for the first time since we sold it in January. I knew it was going to be demolished because the man who bought it planned to build two new houses on the property. I was prepared for some emotional response. It was also going to be a reality check...there would never be another time I could look at this place and see it as 'home'. The house was razed to it's foundation. I walked up to the steps...broken...rails removed...still marking the place where the front door once stood at 13 South Grove Avenue. Initially, I just looked around quietly and nodded. I acknowledged the presence of  heavy machinery and dumpsters where I once played with my dogs, friends, and had picnics and pig roasts with family. I saw piles of dirt and debris where I had lain in the grass gazing at the stars, talking to the full moon, listening to the sounds of my suburban neighborhood an...

Hi there! Welcome to Childfree Moxie! Glad you could join me. This blog was previously on Wordpress...but I really didn't like their set up. Not much creative freedom for my taste. I already have another blog here- Mid-Stride Moxie! - and if you're so inclined, feel free to mosey over there and read about the rest of my crazy life! This blog is just devoted to my life as a woman who is Childfree by Choice.  I know there are those who want kids but could never have them....this is probably not the place for you. I have many friends who do have kids but are very supportive of my choice not to have any. This is not a place, however, to talk about the joys of parenthood. This is also not a place to talk about the joys of being an aunt or uncle. This is actually not a place to talk about kids. This is about living life in a society that is extremely pronatalist and often treats children like little cult icons. Those who don't want children often become hostile against 'breed...

Many years ago, I walked away from the Bachelor's degree I had been pursuing for 4 years. At the time, I had already completed an Associate's Degree, but for the B.A. - I was one class short. I literally walked away at the very end...failing to submit my final paper for the last class which left me with an Incomplete grade and no degree. Why?  Many people asked that question and I've asked myself that a gazillion times over the years. All I can say is, 'It seemed like the right move at the time'. Relationships, family, work, LIFE....all conspired at that time to make my life ridiculous and my response was to walk away from it. At that time, I was a younger woman, still allowing people to live vicariously through me and my accomplishments. There was no praise, only condemnation that I didn't appreciate and wasn't doing more with what I had been given. I did what I was expected to do, until I finally had enough and turned on my heel and left. Truth is, I never...

Tis that time of year....I can feel the push and pull of the Season when the veils between worlds start to draw back and my sleep time is invaded more frequently. For many people who want to develop their psychic abilities but are afraid of what will happen, Dream Time is the easiest way I've found to dip your toe into the cosmic pool. You can ask to go slowly, see images that are not scary, and learn to control your dreams in a way you never could before. I'm not much for the whole 'journaling' about your dreams...as they often disappear once my eyes are open. But as I have developed better use of Dream Time, I remember more and more without having to write things down. There is a pressure on me that I can literally feel all over my body during my sleep now...I feel almost like I'm underwater. I tend to tire earlier...and where on a normal night I'd be up till 10 or 11pm so I could get up for work around 5 or 6, I find I am nodding off  barely an hour after sun...

Once again, I have found myself discussing subjects with both Pagans and non-Pagans that make me a very unpopular Witch. The problems arise as we, Pagans, come from a variety of backgrounds, lifestyles, cultures, philosophies and spiritual paths. We tend to look for the unifying thread among us; the beliefs that will allow us to come together and be stronger in numbers (to ensure our survival). As people who believe in Nature, Magick, Life and Death...it was difficult to find a common thread for the Utopia many believe this world could/should be. The world is far too diverse to reach the standard of Utopian equality and idealism in all things. We strive toward that but even the Pagan community cannot agree on most things day-to-day. We walk individual paths and then try to come together and end up with massive gridlock. This is what once again sits me in the corner with my pointy Witch hat with 'Bad Pagan' written on it. I don't believe in a Utopia, nor do I feel we can att...

I wrote a blog this morning on the Mid-Stride Moxie Tumblr page. It started from a post where someone was getting upset at drawings of Yemaya being portrayed in different races. The original post stated that this version Yemaja- They said, "Last time I checked, this was an accurate image of Yemanja..." Could not be the same Goddess as this version of Yemaya- They also said, "So, who dis white woman?" There was a reply that explained how Yemanja was incorporated into the Christian religion by the Native peoples and so She came to be seen more like the Virgin Mary, etc. I knew that and I normally would have just let it go since I understood the history. What bothered me more was the possessiveness.... Why do we still insist that the Goddess has to look like us and because of that, no one else can have Her? I tried to explain more in this blog. Please follow the link to my Tumblr post (and follow, too...that would be nice!) Then please share your thoughts with me. Godd...

Fear is a liar and a thief. Fear is a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual prison that we put ourselves in. It holds us in its grip, prevents us from having the life we want and from being the kind of people we want to be. Fear places limitations on us which impact our spirits and ability to become enlightened, magickal beings. Fear is a negative energy and will attract other like energies to us such as anger, depression or regret. It will affect the way we think, feel, and behave...as well as influencing the energies of those around us.                                           Fear encourages us lie to ourselves and binds us to our own limitations. I have been amazed at the way we buy into the lies fear tells us. I have a friend who is a beautiful, intelligent, strong and brave woman. If she thinks that any of her friends or family are being threatened....she is intimidating,...

While visiting a favorite Facebook page of mine- Confessions of a Childfree Woman (by the amazing Marcia Drut-Davis) I noticed a post today where she remarked that an article she posted was removed by Facebook. According to Facebook, she didn't follow the rules for 'Community Standards'.  I call- BULLSHIT! There is so much 'inappropriate' content (porn, excessive nudity, violence, hate speech, etc) which could never possibly play by their rules that it's amazing that THIS article managed to push more than a few buttons. And why is that? Because it treated pregnancy as nothing more than the medical and biological event that it is and removed all the sacred and religious fervor that usually accompanies the subject.  Let us remove the craptastic rose colored glasses here. I refused to bow my head and only treat the subject of reproduction with reverence. Pregnancy as a rule should not be treated with reverence-as if every child is the alleged return of the Christia...

Yeah....I'd been struggling with the name of this blog for a bit. Finally hit me that this blog, should keep a theme with my other blog. So....My Crazy Childfree Midlife is now......Childfree Moxie!  Gods...that just feels so much better...and I'm all over social media.....woohoo....!!! So, this will be primarily for my Childfree musings...no other subjects will be posted here except as to how they relate to my status as a person who is Childfree by Choice. If you want to get to know the rest of what I think and feel in life, then follow me on some of my other sites.... Follow me on Twitter: @Adelina313 My other blog: Mid-Stride Moxie- http://midstridemoxie.blogspot.com/ and on Tumblr, too! http://midstridemoxie.tumblr.com/ In the meantime...I'm gonna go grab some dessert and hunker down for an episode of Dr Who..... More CF goodness coming soon!  

Why can't we have Adult-only spaces? Why does everything have to be 'family friendly'? What happened to the days when children had to grow up, learn the rules of proper behavior at home and THEN were brought out into the world? Seems to me that the problem is (as usual) not the kids, but the parents. Parents, desperately afraid they are going to miss out on a LIFE since they've had children, suddenly are up-in-arms whenever someone suggests any kind of adults-only space. There seems to be a ridiculous backlash whenever a restaurant, movie theater, or other business try to set aside a place for adults to be with other adults SANS kids. Those parents feel entitled to run roughshod over everyone else's rights and protest that it isn't fair that  their little darlings can't be part of the club. The real issue is why THEY can't be part of the club. These parents are free to frequent any of these establishments, just NOT with their kids in tow. Have we really ...